The Experience of Value
By Silver Eagle
By Silver Eagle
I think of value this way - stripped down - value is a choice based action. It is where you decide to place the focus of your personal energies to cultivate and nurture the experiences you want. If you know that then you have a lot more control over your life.
When you apply your personal energies to any experience, you interact with that energy. Part of you embodies that vitality as part of that vitality also embodies you. Because you commit personal energies to the experience, you will interpret the experiences in a personal way. So from that basic exchange we derive pleasure and a sense of value. As the exchange expands within our perceptions emotionally, it becomes the feelings of loyalty, duty, honor, love, companionship, friendship, spiritual, and anything in between, flowing back and forth so long as you keep exchanging. That's the anatomy of it.
But we seldom are aware of it in that way. By the time our conscious awareness kicks in we are deep in the experience of it, swept away with the power of the forces that flow around and through us. Think about it for a minute, what you say you value. Take a moment to realize your participation in that, you exchange of energy with life to sustain that force. It's an amazing thing to envision and understand.
I'll use and example, the person at Macy's vying for the handbag. Where is the value in that situation? Now bear with me, I'll make many generalizations - the situation could've changed in a hundred different ways then I paint. It's only an illustration.
Sue has been shopping for hours. Her sister is notoriously difficult to shop for. Growing up, she never knew what to get and most of the time, her sister ended up returning the gift in favor of something else. Not that Joanie didn't appreciate her sister's gifts. Sue knew that she did. But Sue just didn't seem to pick well. But his year she knew for sure. Armed with a bit of gossip from her current beau, Sue headed off to by 'the perfect gift'. After trying seven different stores, she finally landed at Macy's, her last hope.
Several departments later, she finally spied her prize across the busy isleway. Excusing her way through the anonymous crowd of shoppers, Sue was within reach of the last handbag; the very one that her sister wanted. This year, she was going to get it right. But seconds before she was to reach her goal, a woman came out of nowhere and reached for the bag. Sue quickly stepped in front of the other woman and grabbing the bag headed off to the cashier with her treasure leaving a string of rather uncomplimentary words in her wake.
Where is the value? A casual observer may balk at the manners displayed by Sue, unless they understood the motivation. Even so, it may be considered to be unsavory. Stray comments about - 'Christmas Spirit' and 'Commercialization' may be floating around. What's wrong with the world today that grown, civil people have to fight over merchandise like animals around this time of the year? The underlying question is about what as a society is valued. Especially this time of year. So, what did Sue value? Where was her energy? How do you see it?
Fear. Plain and simple. Not a 'hair raising' kind of fear but one just as powerful. Underneath all the smoke and mirrors of what we've learned as a society to believe is the 'problem' with Sue, the simple fact is she was in fear of judgement. Those who would say she was motivated by love should re-examine what they think love is about. The value wasn't in 'finding the perfect gift' it was in not being judged by her sister - again. Whether this was happening from Joanie's perspective or not, it was real for Sue and disguised as something acceptable so, rationally it justified her behavior in her mind. Since fear is where she placed her energy - fear is what she values. If she knew that, it wouldn't manipulate her anymore, she would be in control.
Not a particularly cheery message, but a gift of growth. If you can learn to see the areas in your life where this is happening, you can change many things in your life. If you 'value' growth, you will grow. If you value love, you will love. If you value fear, you will always be afraid until you know it and can own it.
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