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I've been unable to locate the article in our Main Reference Library and wondered if it might have blown up.

I got my new eyeglasses yesterday afternoon. The day before, when the other pair broke, I had to go through the day without them, and I did quite well (considering) until in the afternoon when I had to type-write information onto a Blumberg legal form.

I had to hold my face so close to the typewriter that if I stuck my tongue out I would have been able to lick the keyboard. Then, when I was copying information from a draft, I kept having to pick up the paper and hold it inches from my face to see the small type.

Suddenly the magnitude of my vision loss crashed upon me. I've been so dependant and accustomed to having my eyeglasses all the time that I haven't gotten a chance until then to realize exactly what condition my eyesight is in. I burst into tears. Quiet tears. I pulled myself together and continued my work, then broke down again. And again. And again. I was having a problem letting go of the emotion because it was just flowing like an ocean making huge unavoidable waves. I had a lot of difficulty controlling it since I couldn't just "shut it off." I think the emotions behind my issue surfacing as they did was long overdue. Yesterday morning I looked for the article to review it, and couldn't find it.

I'm okay now. It wasn't too hard to accept the optomotrist telling me yesterday that I am at End Stage Glaucoma. Maybe I just threw that into the Basement so quickly to avoid dwelling on it. Maybe I've really accepted it and let it go. I can't tell.

Is the article gone?

My Recent Posts · Mar 29, 2008

BeWater

I know what it is to live with a debility and come to terms with it, especially when it's something that will continue to deteriorate. Sometimes the shock of that is a bit much and release is called for. Silent tears may flow. On the other hand you have new glasses to assist you in correcting that debilitating condition and you can go on now. I believe this is the article you're looking for and I hope it helps you restore your sense of balance with the issue.

Emotional Triggers It's in the Main Library.

My Recent Posts · Mar 30, 2008

Be Water,

I think you face diagnostic probabilities as what they are, " probabilities" You prepare yourself for the probability but live today.

When I have become down due to my son's illnesses, I would go into an aggressive depression. I would read all there was to read (medically), sit down and cry as I faced the worse, and then realized how much better things were today then they might be. I accepted the probabilities but also recognized that we only live in the present. Today, I have a good friend that is approaching end stage ALS. There is only one future reality but still today there is love and joy. Her son retuned home from Australia and she knew how successful she had been in life as she introduced him to all of us. She chooses each day what to focus on. Even while her future is limited in time she chooses to focus on what she has today. Admittedly though as we see her monthly there is a sad question we each walk away with ; "will it be the last time we meet in the physical plane"? The probability is there but we live today, schedule lunch for the next month, and look forward with anticipation to the next meeting.

I think we create today based on our choices. It's centering with all that one can be or choose to be today. And don't forget in your case there are probabilities of bionic eyes as well. Does anyone really know what the future might hold? In that uncertainty resides hope.

Walk in healing peace and love, earthwalker

My Recent Posts · Mar 31, 2008

Ahh, BeWater.

I've been so emotionally detached most of my life. I thought I had to be. After all, I was the "strong" one everybody depended on. It worked...for the everyday stuff, but when the big transitions in my life came I headed into depression. Since then I've had to learn to consciously allow the emotions flow through and out. I'm still not good at it (I've said often how I hate crying), but I know I don't want the depression, so I eventually let it happen.

The tears release, cleanse and purify. They're a way of letting go of the old, so, as Earthwalker said, you can face the next decision and move forward. Withholding the tears is postponing the "possibilities" of the next moment - holding on to the old.

Emotional detachment is more for not letting yourself be swamped by someone else's emotions - not your own. That took me a looooong time to distinguish. Own your own emotions. Be conscious of them. Then put those blessed glasses on and live your moments.

My Recent Posts · Apr 1, 2008

BeWater, when you speak of releasing emotional attachment, are you speaking of releasing the attachment to what you think you need to have to fulfill the view that you have of yourself, ie: someone who has good eyesight? I hope that wasn't a confusion question. I put it that way, because I agree with Swan that it is important to OWN our emotions and it is important to feel them. It is important to embrace them. Often what happens to us humans is that we attach to something or someone which forms part of our identity (egocentric identity of course). Being Awake, we can pause and realize our attachment for what it is. But, it is still hard to detach; it take courage and conviction and strength. Seeing it is the hardest step though - and you've done that. Our attachments are not who we are, but what we cling to as part of our egocentric identity. Congratulations for seeing this experience for what it is! That is very comendable!

Perhaps I miss the mark here. If so, please gently toss this into the wind.
EagleSinging

My Recent Posts · Apr 2, 2008

Oh Family, I'm so deeply touched by your support ~ thanks!

I was looking for the article on Emotional Detachment not to escape from the emotions I experienced at that time, but rather to reign them in, so to speak. Since I was in my office, it wouldn't be "professional" to keep having continuous uncontrollable outbursts, facing clients and staff with tears streaming down my face, hiccuping sobs, red eyes... you know...

I believe it's important to flow with emotion rather than stuffing them, but that the ability to detach comes in handy in some situations that need to be dealt with wit focus and clarity, when emotions might "get in the way" and "take us" in another direction.

Unlike earthwalker, I haven't read what "End Stage Glaucoma" is, but I was informed when I asked, that typically the nerves in the eyes have a yellowish to pinkish color to them. He said all of mine are white.

Yes, earthwalker, in spite of the probabilities, I'm living for today

My Recent Posts · Apr 2, 2008

The reason you were looking to detach at the moment would have helped define answers more then. In that case it's not necessarily detachment coming into play either but balance and that's done with the polar opposite element. Tears are Water, Air would bring balance. An assertive/aggressive thought process wherein the Higher Awareness and pure logic (devoid of emotion) bring about stability. I find it interesting to see that's basically what was brought into play here anyway.

My Recent Posts · Apr 3, 2008

Thanks for the reply anyway Cinn because for some reason I know I had never touch upon the balance that brings the opposite. It seems pretty evident now that I think about it but it had never occured to me.
Ill try to remember that.

My Recent Posts · Apr 3, 2008

Oh I'm glad it helped you there, my friend! You know, Northernwolf, if you look at the four elements you can see clearly how they balance each other on the Wheel. Air and Fire are masculine/aggressive energy where Water and Earth are feminine/passive energies. So being placed directly across from one and other that balance of the union of the two is achieved. One half of the Wheel is weighted with each to create equal balance and if quartered the same results are found. It's in the balance we come to know the partnership of the two or the Oneness with it.

My Recent Posts · Apr 9, 2008

May I quote that bit about the balance of the elements in the wheel to create Oneness in my journal Cinn?...I'm working out my own journey through Chronic Pain in my journal, as I try to find how I have found balance for myself...and make it available for my son...
And when I read that, I went...exactly...how wonderful for it to be stated so clearly for me, just as I needed to understand it that way...
*Thanks to Spirit and Cinn for this timely gift.*
and to quote the lead of the A team...
I love it when a plan comes together...

Always when I am most in need, Spirit provides...

My journal is online, and I'll put the quote in for my own copy, and mark it private, until I hear from you...

Thanks for the gift of the visual regardless of whether I can directly quote you.

Munay Ki

My Recent Posts · Apr 9, 2008

By all means you can quote me. It's a universal truth so that means it's not really 'mine' anyway.

I like it when things come together succinctly too.

My Recent Posts · Apr 9, 2008

Thanks ((((Cinn)))).

Munay ki

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My Recent Posts · May 30, 2008

Oh I could feel your tears. I hope the new glasses help. It is scary to know one is deteriorating in some ways and sight is so dear. I am living it now but am on the path to hopefully fixing it in time. Feeling weak and vulnerable is an anger causing thing and makes us feel weak. I reach to all I can for the support to get thru trials. I think this family here is a good supporting one. Warm hugs and light, we all fight something as we go thru life, we learn to adapt and fly. Sage

My Recent Posts · Jun 3, 2008

Hey, BW

I just found this.

How are you doing now?

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Be Water	May I please have help with Emotinal Detachment?		Lead	[-]
Posts: 624 Mar 29, 2008 10:37:31 Honored Senior Member	Tags : None I've been unable to locate the article in our Main Reference Library and wondered if it might have blown up. I got my new eyeglasses yesterday afternoon. The day before, when the other pair broke, I had to go through the day without them, and I did quite well (considering) until in the afternoon when I had to type-write information onto a Blumberg legal form. I had to hold my face so close to the typewriter that if I stuck my tongue out I would have been able to lick the keyboard. Then, when I was copying information from a draft, I kept having to pick up the paper and hold it inches from my face to see the small type. Suddenly the magnitude of my vision loss crashed upon me. I've been so dependant and accustomed to having my eyeglasses all the time that I haven't gotten a chance until then to realize exactly what condition my eyesight is in. I burst into tears. Quiet tears. I pulled myself together and continued my work, then broke down again. And again. And again. I was having a problem letting go of the emotion because it was just flowing like an ocean making huge unavoidable waves. I had a lot of difficulty controlling it since I couldn't just "shut it off." I think the emotions behind my issue surfacing as they did was long overdue. Yesterday morning I looked for the article to review it, and couldn't find it. I'm okay now. It wasn't too hard to accept the optomotrist telling me yesterday that I am at End Stage Glaucoma. Maybe I just threw that into the Basement so quickly to avoid dwelling on it. Maybe I've really accepted it and let it go. I can't tell. Is the article gone? "Be Water, my friend... Be Water...." ~ Bruce Lee ~
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Posts: 1223 Mar 29, 2008 12:50:43 Admin/ Board Founder Readings by Cinnamon Moon:	BeWater I know what it is to live with a debility and come to terms with it, especially when it's something that will continue to deteriorate. Sometimes the shock of that is a bit much and release is called for. Silent tears may flow. On the other hand you have new glasses to assist you in correcting that debilitating condition and you can go on now. I believe this is the article you're looking for and I hope it helps you restore your sense of balance with the issue. Emotional Triggers It's in the Main Library. ~Wan-Tanna-Hey: "Walk In Peace With Spirit"~ ~To Be A Feather In Spirit's Wing~
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Posts: 508 Mar 30, 2008 20:44:53 Honored Senior Member	Be Water, I think you face diagnostic probabilities as what they are, " probabilities" You prepare yourself for the probability but live today. When I have become down due to my son's illnesses, I would go into an aggressive depression. I would read all there was to read (medically), sit down and cry as I faced the worse, and then realized how much better things were today then they might be. I accepted the probabilities but also recognized that we only live in the present. Today, I have a good friend that is approaching end stage ALS. There is only one future reality but still today there is love and joy. Her son retuned home from Australia and she knew how successful she had been in life as she introduced him to all of us. She chooses each day what to focus on. Even while her future is limited in time she chooses to focus on what she has today. Admittedly though as we see her monthly there is a sad question we each walk away with ; "will it be the last time we meet in the physical plane"? The probability is there but we live today, schedule lunch for the next month, and look forward with anticipation to the next meeting. I think we create today based on our choices. It's centering with all that one can be or choose to be today. And don't forget in your case there are probabilities of bionic eyes as well. Does anyone really know what the future might hold? In that uncertainty resides hope. Walk in healing peace and love, earthwalker
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Posts: 1116 Mar 31, 2008 09:27:42 Honored Senior Member	Ahh, BeWater. I've been so emotionally detached most of my life. I thought I had to be. After all, I was the "strong" one everybody depended on. It worked...for the everyday stuff, but when the big transitions in my life came I headed into depression. Since then I've had to learn to consciously allow the emotions flow through and out. I'm still not good at it (I've said often how I hate crying), but I know I don't want the depression, so I eventually let it happen. The tears release, cleanse and purify. They're a way of letting go of the old, so, as Earthwalker said, you can face the next decision and move forward. Withholding the tears is postponing the "possibilities" of the next moment - holding on to the old. Emotional detachment is more for not letting yourself be swamped by someone else's emotions - not your own. That took me a looooong time to distinguish. Own your own emotions. Be conscious of them. Then put those blessed glasses on and live your moments. "A Fox is a Wolf who sends flowers." - Ruth Weston
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Posts: 779 Apr 1, 2008 00:11:01 Honored Senior Member	BeWater, when you speak of releasing emotional attachment, are you speaking of releasing the attachment to what you think you need to have to fulfill the view that you have of yourself, ie: someone who has good eyesight? I hope that wasn't a confusion question. I put it that way, because I agree with Swan that it is important to OWN our emotions and it is important to feel them. It is important to embrace them. Often what happens to us humans is that we attach to something or someone which forms part of our identity (egocentric identity of course). Being Awake, we can pause and realize our attachment for what it is. But, it is still hard to detach; it take courage and conviction and strength. Seeing it is the hardest step though - and you've done that. Our attachments are not who we are, but what we cling to as part of our egocentric identity. Congratulations for seeing this experience for what it is! That is very comendable! Perhaps I miss the mark here. If so, please gently toss this into the wind. EagleSinging
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Posts: 626 Apr 2, 2008 13:03:21 Honored Senior Member	Oh Family, I'm so deeply touched by your support ~ thanks! I was looking for the article on Emotional Detachment not to escape from the emotions I experienced at that time, but rather to reign them in, so to speak. Since I was in my office, it wouldn't be "professional" to keep having continuous uncontrollable outbursts, facing clients and staff with tears streaming down my face, hiccuping sobs, red eyes... you know... I believe it's important to flow with emotion rather than stuffing them, but that the ability to detach comes in handy in some situations that need to be dealt with wit focus and clarity, when emotions might "get in the way" and "take us" in another direction. Unlike earthwalker, I haven't read what "End Stage Glaucoma" is, but I was informed when I asked, that typically the nerves in the eyes have a yellowish to pinkish color to them. He said all of mine are white. Yes, earthwalker, in spite of the probabilities, I'm living for today "Be Water, my friend... Be Water...." ~ Bruce Lee ~
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Posts: 1240 Apr 2, 2008 13:17:22 Admin/ Board Founder Readings by Cinnamon Moon:	The reason you were looking to detach at the moment would have helped define answers more then. In that case it's not necessarily detachment coming into play either but balance and that's done with the polar opposite element. Tears are Water, Air would bring balance. An assertive/aggressive thought process wherein the Higher Awareness and pure logic (devoid of emotion) bring about stability. I find it interesting to see that's basically what was brought into play here anyway. ~Wan-Tanna-Hey: "Walk In Peace With Spirit"~ ~To Be A Feather In Spirit's Wing~
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Posts: 1714 Apr 3, 2008 11:16:46 Honored Senior Member	Thanks for the reply anyway Cinn because for some reason I know I had never touch upon the balance that brings the opposite. It seems pretty evident now that I think about it but it had never occured to me. Ill try to remember that. I'm a man. I'm advance. I'm the first mammal to wear pants yeah! --- Do the evolution ---- Pearl Jam
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Posts: 1242 Apr 3, 2008 22:51:42 Admin/ Board Founder Readings by Cinnamon Moon:	Oh I'm glad it helped you there, my friend! You know, Northernwolf, if you look at the four elements you can see clearly how they balance each other on the Wheel. Air and Fire are masculine/aggressive energy where Water and Earth are feminine/passive energies. So being placed directly across from one and other that balance of the union of the two is achieved. One half of the Wheel is weighted with each to create equal balance and if quartered the same results are found. It's in the balance we come to know the partnership of the two or the Oneness with it. ~Wan-Tanna-Hey: "Walk In Peace With Spirit"~ ~To Be A Feather In Spirit's Wing~
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Posts: 1121 Apr 9, 2008 12:37:16 Honored Member	May I quote that bit about the balance of the elements in the wheel to create Oneness in my journal Cinn?...I'm working out my own journey through Chronic Pain in my journal, as I try to find how I have found balance for myself...and make it available for my son... And when I read that, I went...exactly...how wonderful for it to be stated so clearly for me, just as I needed to understand it that way... Thanks to Spirit and Cinn for this timely gift. and to quote the lead of the A team... I love it when a plan comes together... Always when I am most in need, Spirit provides... My journal is online, and I'll put the quote in for my own copy, and mark it private, until I hear from you... Thanks for the gift of the visual regardless of whether I can directly quote you. Munay Ki
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Posts: 1263 Apr 9, 2008 13:33:38 Admin/ Board Founder Readings by Cinnamon Moon:	By all means you can quote me. It's a universal truth so that means it's not really 'mine' anyway. I like it when things come together succinctly too. ~Wan-Tanna-Hey: "Walk In Peace With Spirit"~ ~To Be A Feather In Spirit's Wing~
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Posts: 1123 Apr 9, 2008 14:25:45 Honored Member	Thanks ((((Cinn)))). Munay ki Your Signature ...
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Posts: 1264 Apr 9, 2008 14:31:45 Admin/ Board Founder Readings by Cinnamon Moon:	~Wan-Tanna-Hey: "Walk In Peace With Spirit"~ ~To Be A Feather In Spirit's Wing~
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Posts: 26 May 30, 2008 11:05:08	Oh I could feel your tears. I hope the new glasses help. It is scary to know one is deteriorating in some ways and sight is so dear. I am living it now but am on the path to hopefully fixing it in time. Feeling weak and vulnerable is an anger causing thing and makes us feel weak. I reach to all I can for the support to get thru trials. I think this family here is a good supporting one. Warm hugs and light, we all fight something as we go thru life, we learn to adapt and fly. Sage Look up in to the sky at the birds flying free You have the same freedom as the birds Its only you that has built a cage around yourself the hermit
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Posts: 376 Jun 3, 2008 09:29:51 Honored Senior Member	Hey, BW I just found this. How are you doing now?
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